7 Simple Ways to Become a Thoughtful Person

Everyone should receive flowers for no reason!

I’ve always been in awe of thoughtful people.  We all know those people that remember important milestones in your life or give you a meaningful gift for no reason.  They hold a special place in my heart and those little things can mean so much.  I just assumed this was some sort of intrinsic characteristic people possess, but the other day it occurred to me that you can plan to be thoughtful.  I’ve decided I need to work just a little harder to make someone else’s day a little brighter.  Here are a few things I have come up with to make myself a more thoughtful person:

1.   Write down people’s birthdays on a calendar and send them a well thought out e-mail marking the occasion.  I have a couple of friends who do this every year.  I tend to save their messages for months and revisit them when I need to smile.

2.  If you know you’re going to see someone you don’t see often, have something for them.  For example, my hairdresser has a client that always brings her a cinnamon roll when she has an appointment.

3.  People like to be surprised.  If you are getting your daily Starbucks, buy one for your coworker who never splurges on herself.  Sometimes it’s the simplest things that can brighten someone’s day.

4.  Give someone a heartfelt thank you.  As an orthodontist, I work hard to make beautiful smiles.  It’s invaluable to have a patient express sincere appreciation for my hard work.  If you have an unbelievable hairdresser, dentist, doctor, florist, personal trainer, take some time to really let them know how wonderful they are and what a good job they do.  I have a friend who is a teacher and she always says that a thank you letter means more to her than any gift she has received.

5.  Note special days for people and recognize those days with a little something.  When we were opening our office, I was beyond overwhelmed.  Luckily, I had met some great new friends who were a great source of support.   I was still so surprised when a friend mailed me a note on opening day congratulating us on our hard work.

6.  When someone has a loss in their life, acknowledge it in some way.  Flowers, food, a note, a phone call – anything will do.  Don’t put it off because you don’t know what to say.

7.  Do something nice for your spouse.  In day to day life, sometimes those closest to us take the most abuse.  Most people don’t need grand romantic gestures (although we wouldn’t turn it down).   Just do a little something to remember they are appreciated.  Take the pressure off by helping them with their “to do” list.  Small expressions of encouragement and unsolicited complements go a long way.

This list is just the beginning.  What is the most thoughtful thing done for you?

2 Responses to “7 Simple Ways to Become a Thoughtful Person”

  1. Melissa says:

    Well said! We all need to practice being more thoughtful.

  2. Christine says:

    Kudos to you for recognizing the need!
    Our office is recognizing our employees hard work & effort for the summer months with a “End of Summer Fun Day” aka “Thank God we made it Day” later today.

    Acknowledging the fact that we put forth a cumulative effort as a team makes a huge impact on the willingness to do it again & again.

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